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You have massive goals you want to reach.
Maybe you want to work from home and spend more time with your family or pets.
Maybe you want to be your own boss and be in control of your own income and schedule.
But something is holding you back…
Like most people with big dreams, you’re trapped by your own mindset.
Negative thoughts, fear, self-doubt…
I’ve been there, bought the T-shirt, and now I want to help you.
I often get asked how I went from working an 8–5 job I hated to the job of my dreams — helping people who want to work from home learn how to avoid scams and build the skills they need to start earning real income from anywhere even if they’re starting from scratch!
Truthfully, I never would’ve been able to do any of it if it weren’t for several key mindset shifts I incorporated into my life. In the past, I’ve let many of the below mindset issues hold me back from achieving my goals, but I was able to overcome them. And so can you!
Hold on tight; I’m about to blow your negative thoughts out of the water!
1. I’m not good enough
Are you one of those people who compares yourself to others and then feels defeated?
Do you question your own abilities and put off your goals for fear that you’re not good enough?
I’ve so been there.
When I started my first business, I made the mistake of comparing myself to others. I compared myself to people five years ahead of me and felt like giving up!
I seriously questioned whether or not I had what it took to build a successful business, and as a result, I remained stuck in the same position for an embarrassing amount of time! #truestory
It wasn’t until I was able to look my self-doubt in the face and stop worrying about others that I was able to push forward and experience real success.
The more time we spend comparing ourselves to others, the less time we’re spending in active pursuit of our own goals.
And it wasn’t just my fear that I wasn’t as good as everyone else that was holding me back, I also believed that I was just not good enough.
I thought I’d never be able to earn more than $40,000 a year. You know what? That was a lie I was telling myself.
I was stuck in a fixed mindset when what I needed to adopt was a growth mindset.
Over the last six years, I’ve been able to earn much, much more than that through learning different skills. Learning changes everything!
To overcome self-doubt, you need to take action. Move.
It’s all a choice.
Choose something you’re interested in.
Choose something that seems to match your skills, interests, and desired lifestyle — knowing you can always choose something different later if you want to.
Then, even if you don’t feel ready, choose to move.
I also highly recommend reading mindset books as a way to overcome feelings of not being good enough. It’s worked wonders for me!
2. I’m not ready
Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “Now is not a good time to try this. When X happens, then I’ll try.”
If you’re waiting for perfect — or if you’re waiting for comfort — you’ll never do it.
The perfect time is now. It’s always now.
This will be true for the rest of your life.
For example, the thought of having my book Work at Home selling in bookstores and on Amazon was scary. I couldn’t help but think I wasn’t ready to publish it.
It would have been much less scary to just share the book on my website and email list. Those people already know, like, and trust me. They’d be more inclined to like the book than people who don’t know me yet.
But I knew I’d never publish it if I waited to be ready because I’d never be “ready.”
Everything I’ve ever done with my business I did before I felt “ready.”
The only real difference between the “me” I was and the “me” I am now is what’s in my brain. It’s my experience; it’s my skills.
I started something new — even though I thought I’d fail! — I made a bunch of mistakes, but I learned a ton and kept going even when I felt like giving up.
Similarly, the only difference between the “you” you are now and the “you” you want to be is what’s in your brain.
Get curious about that. Get excited about that. How could your life improve if you learned something new and took action with that knowledge?
3. I don’t know how to do it
Here are some hard truths about “making it” in today’s online world:
1) It’s not a problem with the economy.
2) It’s not a problem with where you live.
3) It’s not even a problem with the degree you got or didn’t get in college.
It’s a problem with your skills.
It is just a matter of knowing how to do stuff… then taking action.
Except, we don’t like to admit we don’t know what we’re doing. We don’t like to admit we need help — especially those of us with college degrees or previous business experience.
Ironically, “I don’t know how” is often the reason we give for not doing the stuff we dream of doing!
I put off starting my blog for pretty much forever because I didn’t know how to get a website up and running. If I could go back in time, I’d slap myself across the face and say, “Google it, you big sissy!”
Fortunately for you, you’re not a big sissy — and thanks to all the mistakes I’ve made in building my businesses, you’ll spend far less time googling stuff than I did!
Just give it a try! Your brain is not at capacity. You can learn new things. You can do it!
4. I don’t have enough confidence
Confidence doesn’t come naturally to a lot of people, and they use it as an excuse to avoid putting themselves out there.
Believe me; you’re not on your own with this.
But like all skills, confidence can be learned.
Here’s the thing about confidence: It flourishes right along with your skills. If you don’t feel 100% confident in your skills, then don’t expect to have the confidence you need to market those skills.
On the other hand, if you do the work and commit to leveling up your skills — commit to learning — you’ll ooze confidence!
If you want to start your own business, but you’ve found yourself skipping the skills development part and your confidence is shaky at best, slow down.
Many of my proofreading students begin their course believing that all they really need to learn is how to market themselves. Once they get into the meat of the training, they’re often shocked at what they don’t know. It’s a slice of humble pie.
In the same way you won’t get traction without action, you won’t get confidence without mastery. The more you refine your skills, the more confident you’ll feel marketing yourself.
Even if it scares you, do the things. The only way to build confidence in anything is to do more of it.
You’re ready; you’re not alone; and you’re closer to success than you think.
5. I never stick with anything
Are you letting past “failures” dictate what you do in the future?
Just because you tried something before and you didn’t like it, it doesn’t mean you failed.
Now is a good time to differentiate between quitting and giving up. They aren’t the same thing.
Quitting means you’ve realized something just isn’t worth it to you anymore; giving up means you decided you couldn’t do it.
You quit a job because you don’t need the money.
You give up trying to work at home because “it’s too much work” or you’ll “probably fail anyway.”
See the difference? Quitting is totally fine if it means you’re not giving up on your goal.
Life is simply too short to keep doing something you don’t like. It’s too short to be mad at yourself for “wasting time” on something you don’t enjoy.
If you decide after a while that something is not a good fit, no biggie. Just choose something else.
You’ll learn something from every experience, even if the ride is bumpy, makes you throw up, or doesn’t pan out the way you thought it would.
When you’re learning, no time is ever wasted.
Even when it’s hard… when you don’t feel like it… when someone hiding behind a computer screen calls you names, don’t give up.
Keep pushing through when you think you’ve failed.
Master your skill and market it.
Be relentless in your pursuit of the life you’ve dreamed of.
6. I always fail at everything I try
Does fear of failure prevent you from taking any action at all?
You’re not alone. Most people are so terrified of failing because it makes them feel inadequate — so they never even try.
But what happens when you put your ego aside and look at failure as a learning experience and as an opportunity for growth?
You experience massive transformation.
There are only two ways you can really fail:
- You give up.
- You don’t even try.
There’s one misconception out there that I believe sabotages more people than any other: successful people never fail.
Not true! The most successful people in the world have failed more times than they can count.
I know I have!
The difference between people who succeed and people who fail is simple.
Successful people just never give up.
People who fail often never really failed; they just gave up. They stopped trying, while the successful people refused to admit defeat.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” — Henry Ford
One way to overcome your fear of failure with regard to starting your own business is to start small. Rather than going all on from the beginning, start with a side hustle — something you can work on a few hours a week alongside your full-time job.
If the fear of failure has you in its snare, starting small is very safe.
You can build your income on the side and quit your day job once you have enough side income to work with.
7. I don’t know where to start
The most popular reason I hear from folks in the Work-At-Home Heroes group on Facebook for why they haven’t yet taken action is not knowing where to start. (If you’re not already in the group, the password is #Heroes.)
First off, I would suggest asking yourself some questions to home in on what you really want to do.
- What are your goals?
- What skills do you have?
- Who can you help?
- What problems can you solve for your ideal client?
- Do you need to develop more skills?
Asking yourself these questions will give you some direction for what you want to do and where to start.
Not knowing where to start is the least of your worries, really.
There are so many resources out there that can help you build skills, learn how to market yourself, learn how to do the technical things like setting up a website, etc.
No matter what your question is, there’s an answer out there. You just need to look for it.
Struggling with your mindset? I shine an annoyingly bright light on every single lie you may be holding onto in my book Work at Home. You can get it for free here. All you pay is shipping!